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Evidenced Based Practices for insecurely attached children and trauma

I am frequently asked about “attachment therapy” and “attachment parenting” and various treatments. Many books and others claim success with their approach and individuals often write glorious reviews of these approaches. Yet, we know that these approaches are NOT supported in the literature and withstanding the scrutiny of peers. As such, I wanted to just briefly compile a short list of assessments, tools, treatments and theory approved by Advocates for Children in Therapy that is evidenced based (researched and replicated with a control group) and a list of unsupported assessments, tools, treatments and theory. These can also be found on the Advocates for Children in Therapy website as well as literature such as Handbook of Attachment, Disorganized Attachment, Disorganized Attachment and Caregiving, Parenting Representations, Clinical Applications of the Adult Attachment Interview and others. I have also included a list of accepted assessment tools for assessing attachment quality.


Parent-Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT)

Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child

Attachment and Biobehavioral Catch-up Intervention

Circle of Security

Incredible Years

Adult Attachment Interview

Strange Situation

Attachment Q-Sort 

Attachment Story Telling Completion Task

Attachment Doll Play Assessment

Adult Attachment Projective Picture System

Caregiving Helplessness Questionnaire

Working Model of Child Interview

Parent Development Interview

Circle of Security Interview

Attachment Script Sets

Ainsworth Maternal Sensitivity Scales


Below is a list of treatments and interventions, tools and theories  NOT recommended:

  • Attachment Disorder
  • Attachment Therapy
  • Attachment Therapy Parenting
  • Beyond Consequences
  • Cline/Helding Adopted and Foster Child Assessment
  • Cline/Helding Adoptive Parent Attitude Assessment
  • Complex Trauma
  • Corrective Attachment Therapy
  • Critical Care Parenting
  • Dr Post’s New Family Revolution
  • Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy
  • Emotional Deficit Syndrome
  • Family Centered Regulatory Therapy
  • Holding Therapy
  • Holding Time
  • Humanistic Attachment Therapy
  • Integrative Dyadic Psychotherapy
  • Nancy Thomas Parenting
  • Family Attachment Narrative
  • Pre and Peri Natal Psychology
  • Rage Therapy
  • Rage Reduction Therapy
  • Randolph Attachment Disorder Questionnaire
  • Reactive Attachment Disorder
  • Stress Model
  • Theraplay
  • Z-Therapy

On the Advocates for Children in Therapy Website, they list the names of proponents of the above treatments.  When entrusting your care and the care of your children to someone following one of these models, caution and care must be taken. While there may certainly be some benefits, there is a possibility of doing more harm than good. Remember, the motto of the creators of the Circle of Security state “Parenting in 25 words or less: ALWAYS be BIGGER, STRONGER, WISER, and KIND. Whenever possible, follow the child’s need. Whenever necessary, take charge.” Ensuring proper  treatment for your child is a take charge moment!!!

The Five Love Languages of Teenagers (Paperback)

Learn to Speak Love in the Language Your Teenager Understands Best. Just like adults, teenagers desperately need to feel that they are loved. Yet communicating this truth to our kids can be challenging, since people naturally give and receive love in distinctand often conflictingways. The fact is, every parent and every teenager speaks one of five different love languages, explains Gary Chapman, Ph.D. However, serious conflicts arise when we find ourselves unaware of, or unprepared to speak, our teenagers particular love language. In The Five Love Languages of Teenagersyou will learn to speak your teenagers primary love language Quality Time

Words of Affirmation Gifts

Physical Touch Acts of Service Over the past decade, Dr. Chapmans best-selling book, The Five Love Languages, has helped to transform the emotional climate of hundreds of thousands of marriages, while The Five Love Languages of Children has taught more than 200,000 parents how to express love in the way their young kids are most likely to understand and receive. Now, this highly respected author and counselor offers a wealth of insights on the subject of expressing love to our teenagers and preparing them for their adult years. Discover powerful ways to nurture your teens inner spirit and learn how you can fill his or her love tank to overflowing in The Five Love Languages of Teenagers. –This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

The Five Love Languages of Children (Paperback)

According to the authors, each child expresses and receives love through one of five different communication styles. A parent’s love language may be totally different from that of his or her child, which causes hurt feelings and misunderstandings. With the help of this book, adults can discover their child’s primary language and learn what they can do to effectively convey unconditional feelings of respect, affection, and commitment that will resonate in their child’s emotions and behavior.

Parenting Your Out of Control Teenager

”…an easy-to-read book filled with practical solutions for difficult problems.” — Rex Forehand, Ph.D., Regents Professor of Psychology, University of Georgia

“The well-written, concise, practical and effective ideas that it contains make this book a standout among…parenting books…” — Foster W. Cline, M.D., author ofParenting Teens with Love and Logic –This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

“For all parents who want good, immediately applicable ideas that are effective with acting-out teenagers, this is the book for you!”
–John Gray, Ph.D., author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus and Children Are from Heaven

“An excellent combination of research and practice-with a difficult population! Good practical ideas that help parents answer hard questions.”
–Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D., author of 1-2-3 Magic and Surviving Your Adolescents

“Parents of problematic teens will find Parenting Your Out-of-Control Teenager to be an easy-to-read book filled with practical solutions for difficult problems.”
–Rex Forehand, Ph.D., author of Parenting the Strong-Willed Child

“A standout among the multitude of parenting books. Dr. Sells has a rare combination of practical experience coupled with an academician’s need for researched and effective answers for responding to very difficult teens. For all those parents who want good, immediately applicable ideas that are effective with a severely acting-out adolescent, I can say, without reservations, this is the book for you!”
–Foster W. Cline, M.D., author of Parenting with Love and Logic

“Sells’ approach is all ‘how-to’: he provides seven basic steps, backed up with lists of strategies in the ‘What do I do if…’ mode. These steps will empower parents to regain authority, bring families out of deep trouble, and begin to restore the love parents and teens once held for each other.”
Library Journal

“I found Scott Sells’ new book to be amazingly helpful. He really does go to exactly those most difficult places where teenagers step over the line, and where there seem to be few effective answers. Dr. Sells gives answers, they are very specific, and they are vry practical – real-world answers for real parents and real teenagers.”
–Anthony E. Wolf, Ph.D., author of Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall?

Parenting from the Inside Out

How many parents have found themselves thinking: I can’t believe I just said to my child the very thing my parents used to say to me! Am I just destined to repeat the mistakes of my parents? In Parenting from the Inside Out, child psychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and early childhood expert Mary Hartzell, M.Ed., explore the extent to which our childhood experiences actually do shape the way we parent. Drawing upon stunning new findings in neurobiology and attachment research, they explain how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain, and offer parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of their own life stories, which will help them raise compassionate and resilient children.

1-2-3 Magic! Parenting 2 to 12 Year Olds – Discipline that Works

If your child has begun to rule the roost a bit more than you’d like, this book provides a system to get your family operating smoothly. Especially sensible is Phelan’s theory that children shouldn’t be argued with endlessly to convince them to do what you want them to do. He also wisely points out the best way to get your child to repeat unwanted behavior is to have a highly emotional reaction to it. The plan is simple, and though it’s not quite magic, it may feel like it is. — Susan K. Perry, Ph.D., L.A. Parent Magazine, September 1999

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