Choosing the Right Therapist

October 21, 2013 · Print This Article

By Jerry Nelson October 20. 2013

What is Psychological Health?

I have spent the last seven years working with our military Service Members and their families as they contended with the cycle of being deployed, coming back and being deployed again. As you can imagine, their service to our country impacted every area of their life. This was especially difficult for our National Guard and Army Reservists who came back home to their community without the same resources available to active duty personnel.  Working closely with these individuals, reinforced for me that our daily life consists of four main areas, as illustrated below, and that there is a lot of overlap. Psychological health takes a holistic approach to wellness – recognizing we are an integration of mind, body, and spirit. Difficulties in any one or more of these areas can have a major impact on other areas. Psychological health is achieved with balance in these four areas.

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When Should a Person Seek Assistance?

I also used to work as a surgical nurse and often assisted with cancer surgery.  Most cancers start as a small group of cells that can grow to produce a noticeable lump.  If caught early enough, the cancer can be stopped in its tracks. In our daily life we can have early warning signs, lumps if you will, starting in any of the four areas illustrated above. These can spread into other areas and infect how you view yourself and/or others. For instance, there may be a situation in the social aspect of your life where a relationship has gone bad, such a divorce, unforgiveness, hurt by a friend, etc. Soon you notice you don’t want to associate with others, your appetite has gone away, sleep is impossible, you’re grumpy and irritable and it seems life is spiraling downward. It doesn’t take long for all four areas of your daily life to be affected.  It may be time to do something about these signs and look for a change.

Need a Change?

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Often the longer we wait to do something about the warning signs, the more entrenched the problem becomes in all aspects of life. Perhaps there is a lot of uncertainty in your life and you feel like you’re in a giant maze.  My experience with military Service Members and their families, as well as private practice, revealed that often changing one area of life, (such as emotions, behaviors, relationships, or even a direction in life) can help bring back the psychological health that was once enjoyed.

 

How CAN a Counselor Help?

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You can think of a counselor as someone who comes along side of you and helps you sort out the changes you want to make. Often this involves giving you a new perspective on an issue, or developing new skills to approach old problems in a new way. Maybe you need someone to be more directive and point out things you just can’t see. In the illustration above, can you see the young woman/saxophonist, or the young woman/old woman? Some people can see the images right away, but others need more direction to make the distinction.

Wrong Results?

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I often hear “I tried counseling and it just didn’t work,” especially from men.  Perhaps the problem was you weren’t getting the results you were looking for after just one session. No matter who the counselor is, try to give it at least 2 to 3 sessions before you leave counseling with that individual. However, research shows that the best predictor of a positive outcome is being connected to your counselor. One way to avoid future conflicts is to interview several counselors before starting counseling sessions. I recommend you briefly describe your problem and ask the counselor how much experience they have with that problem. Ask them what their approach to your problem would be. Also ask them how they know when someone is done with counseling. You are listening for two things: the first is the actual answers the counselor gives you; and the second is how they answer you. Do you like what you hear and do you think you can connect with the therapist? You have a right to be proactive in your counseling.

The Bottom Line!

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The military has a credo of leaving no one behind. Finding the right counselor to come alongside you as you work through some things in your life goes a long way toward having, and maintaining, psychological health.

Contact Jerry right now at 608-785-7000 x221 to schedule an appointment or click here to make an appointment request. 

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